Dallas is widely known for its plethora of superb providers and its relatively small number of charlatans and rip-offs. Renown for their beauty and service, Dallas ladies are among the most popular and sought after from other cities as well, many in constant demand by hobbyists in Washington DC, New York, St. Louis, Chicago, Philadelphia, and Atlanta, to name a few. Per capita, the Eros-Dallas ad site is one of the largest and most active, completing the picture of Dallas as an escort Mecca in the middle of the country.
But aside from sheer numbers, Dallas also is known for its community. Over the past 4 years the DFW area has developed a strong, unofficial network of friendly competition and support... and not just "ladies only." In fact, beyond simply a customer/client relationship, the community of escorts and customers has become much more here. From impromptu happy hours to lavish luncheons held as some of the areas finest hotels and restaurants, evidence of a spirit of community abounds.
Among themselves, the ladies maintain several lines of communication, sharing information, verifying clients, and alerting each other of trouble. Many of the local gentlemen keep in close contact as well via email, and often share lunches and breakfasts. In addition, quite a few maintain contacts with hobbyists in other cites which helps pass information on touring ladies and helps travelers to the area get a more detailed "lay of the land." (no pun intended)
But perhaps most unusual, is the amount of personal interaction that exists between the gentlemen and the ladies here. No Dallas lady is without numerous avenues of help and information from the Dallas gents who bring a vast variety of professional and personal wisdom and expertise and offer it to the escort community: lawyers, doctors, builders, financial planners, and every other conceivable profession. Both genders in the community spend time and give of themselves unselfishly, with no quid pro quo expected--which is the basis for the friendly, safe, and happy environment here.
How did it happen? What did we do "right" here in Dallas to build this community? Sadly, there is no magic formula, or set of "steps" I can recommend. There are no shortcuts either, trust and friendship must always be earned, and can never be bought or rushed. But I can tell you, briefly, how we got there.
In Dallas, it started very small. In 1998/1999 the now defunct Delphi forums provided a more intimate place for local hobbyists and providers to communicate. The Big Dog Dallas was then (and remains now) a more informational forum and less of a discussion venue. The nucleus of the Dallas community began on the Delphi Forums, but the development was cut short with the demise of the boards. The ensuing months after the Delphi collapse found the once strong little group searching for a home, and splintered by the various options.
Finally in the fall of 1999 Amber of Houston launched a "review site" called RAPS as part of her ASPD forum using the now ubiquitous UBB software. Houston and Dallas remain the strongholds of traffic of this national site, but a core group of Dallas hobbyists and providers, many from the Delphi days, adopted RAPS as home. Discussions about the local scene became as popular as reviews, and with Amber's support, the original group of moderators created areas for both reviews, discussions, and advertisement that seemed to suit the participants to a tee, making it, hand's down, the venue of choice for most all public communication regarding the hobby. ASPD/RAPS now has over 4,000 members.
Like an evolving species, communication on the boards was spreading here and there, but one Saturday morning in the spring of 2000, Roadking (one of the most active local hobbyists) met me at a local restaurant for breakfast. My site (the foX files) was growing but I found that I knew more about the escorts and people in the cities I traveled to than in my hometown. I invited Roadking to breakfast to ask his help in making the Dallas area information on the foX files more complete and accurate. From that meeting, regular Saturday morning get-togethers between Roadking and myself grew into mini-parties often attracting 15-18 ladies and gentlemen. The virtual community was now becoming a physical community as well.
The success and fun of the Saturday breakfasts was great, but typical venues for eating pancakes make it difficult to gather more than a dozen or so at one time. So in the fall of 2000, Roadking organized the first social gathering/party at a local strip club. The turnout was encouraging with over 20 ladies and about 30 gentlemen in attendance. Gradually, others began to organize and play substantive roles in setting up luncheons and gatherings, and those gatherings continue to grow in size and scope and are a social stable of the Dallas community. From this interaction, many of the gents have discovered common interests and have become friends, several of the ladies have made life long friendships with a few of their peers, and we have even seen a lady or two retire and marry a customer. Also, in times of trouble, there is a support network for the ladies and gentlemen to turn to.
So as you can see, creating and sustaining this community is no different than any other. People of good will, who give of themselves for the pleasure of giving, can make any world better. Establishing a community makes everyone more responsible and thoughtful. It allows customers and clients to see each other as human beings with common interests and common goals, and not merely as sex objects or ATM's with ears.
foX is a long time connoisseur, admirer, and appreciator of the female species. In March of 1999 foX made his personal database available to everyone when he launched the foX files, a web site designed to provide links and information to help his fellow gentlemen find the best sources for adult entertainment both at home, and when traveling.
www.thefoxfiles.com
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